Secret infertility

Are you one of those people? You know…the secretly infertile ones. Are you getting “treatment” without anyone knowing? Are you going to work and putting on a smile even when you hear of pregnancy announcements and wish it was you? Secretly infertile?

Is it shame? Privacy? Ego? Whatever the case…I was secretly infertile. I didn’t feel that is was anyones’s business how I got pregnant.  It was my little secret.

Some people share their journey because they want that support system and I think if that works for them…that’s great.  For me, it was more pressure. I don’t want the questions or comments.  It is more stressful for me.  I’m not ashamed.  I guess that I just am more private.

I feel blessed to have been one of the infertiles (not that I like labeling people or things).  I feel blessed because I feel that my love for my children is so deep and I never want to take their existence for granted. (Not to say if you are not that your love is not deep.) My husband and I worked very hard to get these babies and I do believe it is through God providing technology and miracles to make this happen.

Perhaps one day my secret will be shared when I am ready, but for now I wait to tell my children first before anyone else.  I know that there is no right or wrong and we all have our own views on different topics. This is my point of view.

Were you secretly infertile or going through something similar right now?

One thought on “Secret infertility

  1. I think you make a lot of sense! It depends on each individuals situation as to how it is to best be handled. Kudos to you for being such a strong person to experience and battle through infertility!


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